Reblogged

"Sometimes, other people’s problems stress me out. Do you think that’s weird? I mean, it hurts me when I see the ones I love hurt and/or struggle. Wouldn’t you feel the same way? I don’t know. I guess I feel helpless and it frustrates me. Sometimes I don’t know when to step in or interfere. Or I question myself if I should even interfere or even care so much in the first place. Is it any of my business? When is it my business? Never? Do I just turn the other cheek and let them continue their self destructive ways and bad behavior? Do I wait until something tragic happens? I mean, when is it okay to step in and say “hey, you’re not okay. don’t do this, don’t do that. you need help. talk to me. i am here for you. why are you doing this to yourself? why are you being this way?” Sometimes I don’t want to interfere at all. But then that makes me feel guilty because it’s as if I’m just standing there, watching them destroy themselves all the while I should be doing something. Or saying something. I do believe no one can save you but yourself. But I also know it doesn’t hurt having people there beside you, helping you along the way. Helping you find your way back to yourself, to what matters, to gaining control of your life, to being happy again. You can’t do it alone, I know that for sure. And I know, I know, I know, I knowwww- everything is easier said than done. I suppose it’s necessary to let people do their own thing. Sometimes people have to make big mistakes more than once before finally learning how wrong and bad that mistake is. It’s frustrating, but what can you do? I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again- People will do whatever they want regardless of what you say and do. It is up to them, not you. It is their life, not yours. That’s kind of hard for me to grasp at times… But I’m slowly letting it sink in. I just hate watching people go down a bad road and feeling like I can’t do one stinkin’ thing about it. But, people make mistakes. We all make mistakes. All the time. Every day. It’s how we learn. It’s how we grow. But for some people, they have to make a lot of mistakes- big ones, to finally see clearly. When I see people I love struggle or hear of their problems, I always hope they find their way through it. I know that they can, even if it may take awhile… I still know that they can. They just have to believe and work hard at it. They also must remember that they are never alone, that their loved ones will always be there for them to help them, guide them, and just support them in any way that they can. Because, when you forget that you are loved, even for the slightest moment, your world will feel like hell on earth. It will be unbearable and you will get lost in a dark world. A world that may feel almost impossible to get out of. So, if ever, you feel weak, alone, stressed, frightened, always remember that you are loved and think positively. Because when you get to that point of always being negative, trust me, it will be harder for you to deal with things. And once that happens, all the stress seems to build up and it never seems to stop. I’m totally rambling and getting off topic… But basically, I just wanted to point out that I feel your pain. What hurts you, hurts me. I only hope that in your darkest times, you will be able to see your way out. And if you ever need a hand to help you out, I am always here."